21
Dec
09

Last Minute Holiday Shopping and Coupon Code!

Yeah, I’m not usually one to wait till the week of Christmas to get shopping going, but when one works retail, it’s all one can do to remember to brush your teeth and take a shower in the morning before work.

Tis the season, y’all.

Anyhow, this year, I’ll be doing all my shopping online and shipping the stuff out, ’cause it’s all snowy and cold and if I decided to move back home, it’d be because of this weather.

Ok, I’m done whining.

I’ll probably be sporadically posting this week (heh! ok, most of my posts have been sporadic. sorry!) but since Jennifer from Eshakti emailed me a coupon code, I figured I’d share.

At checkout, enter AMFGC3 to take $20 off of your order. The beauty of this code is that there’s no minimum purchase to use it: if you pick a $20 item, you can still use your code! Also, if you’re a new customer and you register, you’ll get a $15 gift certificate. But, you cannot use them together: you gotta pick one or the other.

You’ve got till Christmas to use the Eshakti code (come on now. I know some of you still haven’t found yourselves a present.) Go forth and shop!

As for me? I’m going to have a cup of hot cocoa and start clicking away at some gifts. If I don’t post before Friday, have a Merry Christmas (or a happy holiday!)

11
Dec
09

Reminder–Enter to win clothing from Shop Translated!

Just a quick heads up, folks: today is the last day to enter to win a piece of your choice from Shop Translated! All you have to do is click here, read the post, and leave a comment to enter. At midnight tonight, December 11, I’m shutting the comments down on that post and picking my two winners.

It’s time to treat yourselves. So, go and enter to win.

Oh, I’ll be at work today, so if you get caught in moderation, don’t worry. I’ll make sure to pull everyone out before I shut comments down.

Good Luck!

07
Dec
09

Coupon Code and My First Giveaway!

ETA: The contest is over! Thanks for all who entered and good luck! Winners, expect an email from me no later than Sunday.

Alrighty. So while I was away with the technical difficulties, Cortney from Shop Translated emailed me to ask if I’d be doing a Cyber Monday post, and if so, here, take a coupon code for your readers!

Y’all, I’d intended on doing a Cyber Monday post, and getting an extra coupon code just for y’all? All over it!

Except I got the email too late for Cyber Monday. But, Cortney is really sweet and has extended the coupon code till January 1, 2010. Enter in “hydeandseek25” (minus the quotes) at checkout to save an extra 25% off your purchase. Naturally, I’ve already scoped out the dress I want. It’s this lovely number from the INES line:

I'm all over the purple this season, folks.

Now, it is cold up here. Cold. As in, it SNOWED up here, cold. And all I want is a sleeveless dress. Only me. I’ll probably pair it with a cardigan, belt, tights, and some flats or boots so I don’t freeze to death.

Now, if y’all like that dress up there, y’all should enter to win it! Or any other piece on the site. That’s right folks: The first Hyde and Seek giveaway! Cortney has two pieces avaliable for y’all to win. Which ones? That’s the beauty: you get to pick! The only stipulation: it cannot be from the new arrivals. But anything else is up for grabs.

Here are the rules: to enter, all you need to do is leave a comment on this post that answers this question: “What is your favorite piece, or type, of clothing?” Here, I’ll get y’all started:

I have a thing about pajamas. Since I was a little girl, I’ve always loved them. From the little feety pajamas to night gowns and everything in between, I love pajamas. Last weekend, when I managed to save a ton of money on a winter coat, I stuck my head into Lane Bryant during their 40% off sale to see what I could see. I could have used some jeans and work clothes and some going out clothes…nope. Gravitated towards pajamas, which I have not bought for some time. So after some deliberation, I chose a purple plaid chemise and these:

All the better to watch James Bond in!

I am such a huge James Bond fan (and yes, I prefer my martinis shaken and not stirred), it just made sense for me to get these. Love them!

So, what about y’all? Tell me about your favorite piece or type of clothing, and be entered to win! You have until midnight (eastern standard time) on Friday, December 11 to get your comment in. I’ll use a random number generator to pick the two winners; they’ll be notified on Saturday. Please, please, please make sure you leave a valid email address with your comment, because that’s how I’ll contact you to get your information should you win.

Good luck and happy shopping!

02
Dec
09

Tis the Season…

…for technological problems. Y’all, my internet has been broken, then my computer was wonky…all this to say, I managed to be blacked out during the best shopping weekend of the year.

But no worries, I still got some good things up my sleeve for y’all. There’s some giveaways in the works that I’m super excited to share with y’all. More is coming, stay tuned. (And by hook or by crook, I’m gonna make sure it actually makes it on the blog!)

It’s also that time of year where you sometimes find yourself having to explain to, ahem, well meaning friends and family why you are not on a diet, why you don’t want any of their tips, and yes, you are indeed going to eat all of that.

It’s the holidays, y’all. I can feel the excitement coming through the screen.

There was a time when I was younger that I found myself dreading this time of year. Yeah, lights and trees and presents were all good, but I didn’t want to go to dinner. Ok, that’s not true. I definitely wanted dinner. I wanted a couple of plates, because this was the only time of year Great-Aunt G would make her apple pie, and let me tell you…that pie could end wars, man. I didn’t want dinner with family that scrutinized everything that went on my plate. I always had a well-meaning great aunt or uncle asking if I was really gonna eat all that food. Did I really want all that starch on my plate? Aren’t I gonna save some room for later?

Ugh. Most people look forward to being able to eat what they want and as much of it, because the holidays are a time of indulgence and pleasure. Me? I just wanted to go to one holiday dinner and not feel like all eyes are on me when I went to the kitchen for a glass of water. I know some of y’all out there have endured (and continue to endure) this same agony. My awesome mother (who was the subject of the same scrutiny) found a way to solve the problem: she made a meal for us at home. That way, I could eat the one plate of food in front of the family (and then get praised for being “so good!” as the offending family member ambled to the kitchen for more dressing), and thoroughly enjoy my dinner at home where I wouldn’t be bothered.

But I always felt bad about that. Why did we have to hide? I should be able to eat my meal without shame, especially this time of year, but that’s not always the case. I always felt like I needed to have some license to eat my food and enjoy it, and that’s extremely sad. Yet, it’s how it went on for years.

This year, since going home wasn’t in the budget, I spent Thanksgiving with all of my friends. BuddingStarlet and I cooked tons of food and we had a full house until about two in the morning (I had to tap out around midnight; I had to work the next day.) We all had multiple plates of food, complimented each other on our favorite dishes, and in general had an amazing time.

Food has always been an integral part of my life. My maternal grandmother was a pastry chef, and she passed that love of baking on to me. For me, the holidays isn’t just about eating yummy food, or even the cooking of yummy food (although it’s one of my favorite things to do), it’s about sharing it. I’m thankful to her for introducing me to cooking, and how to make sure everything I make has love in it. I’m thankful to my mother for doing her best to keep my morale up when faced with some irritating family members. And finally, I’m thankful this year about having friends who I love enough to cook for and share a meal with, and that don’t give me any grief for eating as much as I want.

And my wish for all of you, my dear readers, would be that all of you are able to have love and peace of mind this holiday season. It’s late, but Happy Thanksgiving, y’all.

13
Nov
09

Fashionable Friday—Thanksgiving Outfit

So, the holidays are upon us once again, and it’s all about visiting with friends and family. You want to look fabulous, naturally. As for me, the budget is too tight to make it home to Texas to see my mom, so BuddingStarlet and I are entertaining at our spot.

Now, this is my first Thanksgiving here in the Big Apple. And y’all know I have to look good, right? So when the good folks at Eshakti contacted me about reviewing a piece, I jumped all over it. I’ve spoken at length before about their service and their dresses, and I was looking forward to purchasing a fall frock for the shindig at the apartment.

So, I looked, and looked, and looked, and I finally settled on this beautiful piece:

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Purple! And gold!

Y’all, I fell in love when I saw it online, and when I got it in the mail earlier this week, I fell in love again. The dress is a beautiful aubergine color, and the embroidery isn’t metallic. It’s a golden tan. It has the sash to cinch it, and for those of us who are not a fan of the trapeze dress, you’re gonna need that sash. The fit is amazing. Now, my boobs are not on Rack of doom status, so whenever I get a wrap dress or some trapeze dresses, they never fit in the boob area. It’s usually a sad, flat area. But now when you order, you can provide your bra size (and height, and other measurements too; it’s a bit extra to get that done) to get a great fit. This dress fits my boobs perfectly, and when it’s perfectly cinched, it looks gorgeous. I even had them shorten it a bit, so that it hits right at the knee instead of the standard below the knee length. Now, I may not actually use the sash. I love the embroidery so much, I think I may get myself a bronze belt instead, and some cute little bronze flats like this from Target:

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Bronzed slippers

I love a heel, but since my job is the cooking (BuddingStarlet is decorating) I don’t need my feet screaming for mercy before the guests arrive. I’ll do simple, natural makeup. In fact, if y’all are up for some luxe makeup, head over to Urban Decay (y’all know how I feel about Urban Decay). They’re currently having their friends and family promotion; 30% off your order from November 9-20. Enter code FNFW1 at checkout. Luxe not in the budget? I understand. Y’all know how I love me some Eyes Lips Face, right? Oh, and Payless has their BOGO going on, so stop in and grab yourself some cute flats, or heels…or slippers. Y’all know I love to spread the sales around!

Next week, stay tuned for the Thanksgiving spread I’ll prepare (and hopefully not mangle). Enjoy the weekend!

09
Nov
09

In Which I Ramble About Dating

So, in my last post, I said I’d found myself a boyfriend. We met online, and if anyone is a reader of the blog Fat Girl on a Date, you know that navigating the world of  online dating is a feat in itself. It was here that I (or maybe I’ve read it somewhere, I’m not sure) came up with the term DWF: Dating While Fat.

DWF really ought not be such a revolutionary thing, but really, especially in the online arena, it can be the biggest hindrance in the world. Although most dating sites nowadays will give you a list of body types to describe yourself, most folks do not read said type, and then will IM/email you and ask you about your build. Or, in their profiles, they’ll have some tripe listed such as ” I prefer height/weight proportionate women” or “thick girls apply” or “well curved women welcome”, which is about as clear as the water in the Mississippi River. Now, I’ve touched on what “thick” kind of means before (we’d call them an “inbetweenie” here in the Fat-O-Sphere), but what in the mauve hell does “well curved” mean? I think I’m well curved. Does it then mean me? Or is there some level of curve that I’m supposed to adhere to? Who the hell comes up with these rules, anyway?

The dating website I was on at the time didn’t have those neat little classifications, so I took the time to write a disclaimer of sorts in the profile itself. It was pretty cute, and culminated with the words “I’m fat. Don’t want y’all to think I’m holding back anything.” Succinct and to the point, right?

Y’all, I cannot explain the level of crazy I got. Everything from the married teacher asking me to strip on camera to the Nigerian gentleman who wanted me to be his 2nd wife. In between all of that, I actually got some promising hits. We’d have amazing conversation/IM sessions, and then we’d decide to meet.

And then it would all go to hell. It wouldn’t be personality conflicts (ok, not always) or that my oddities were just too odd, but my body type would cause some kind of issue.

I think that most of these men expected me to be what I call “vanity fat.” You know, where I just say I’m fat but am really thin?  Right. When they saw that I was, um, actually fat, it was a shock. And for some, it was indeed a problem. For example:

Dude: “Oh, I didn’t think you were really fat.”

Me: “Yeah. I am. Does this make you uncomfortable?”

Dude: “No, I just didn’t think you were really fat. Like, you know how you women are. Y’all exaggerate.”

Me: “…”

Now, I’m sure y’all are aware he got ditched more for the “you women” comment than him having an issue with my fat, right? But that’s really my point. Why exactly is weight so damn important? For me, it’s just a descriptor: I’m tall, I’m brown, I have long hair, I’m fat. Whatever. Why does it matter?

I’m not sure I understand why it is that weight has such leverage over who we deal with. I’m more concerned with if a man has a rap sheet, jilted and slightly crazy ex-girlfriends, is misogynistic, lacks ambition…you get my drift. I need to be able to hold an intelligent conversation with a man. Whether the man is fat or not is the last thing on my mind.

My man knows that I adore Shakespeare, that I want to be a diplomat, a writer, and a cook, that my favorite color is blue, and how I got that heart-shaped scar on my belly. He knows I adore calla lilies and gardenias, and that I collect teddy bears. As an addendum, I happen to be fat. He doesn’t care. All he sees is my beauty, both inside and out.

And at the end of the day, if a man can appreciate me in my entirety, that’s all that really matters.

25
Oct
09

I’m Back!…Kinda.

Hi y’all! I’ve kinda fallen off the face of the earth as of late. But as usual, I have pretty good reason.

I moved.

And it wasn’t just a little move, either.

I used to live in Texas. I now reside in the Big Apple. Country’s come to town, y’all!

As for the adjustments…eh. It’s loud. But I manage to get some rest. I have a great job. My writing projects are coming along nicely. IntellectualFeminist, who just had a birthday,  is getting ready to graduate soon, I’ve had this blog for two years now, and in general, life is good.

Oh, and I have a boyfriend. That’s a post in the making. Stay tuned.

I’ve been away for some time, but FA is always on my mind. I’ve got some things working, brewing, and I’m hoping I’ll have the time to share them all with you. Of course, there will be some shopping posts, because Texas weather and NY weather isn’t the same weather (ok, it is right now because NY can’t decide whether to be cold, hot, or rainy.)

Y’all, I’ve gone through some changes, but all have been for the better. Stay tuned, ’cause I’m gonna get you all caught up.

Enjoy the remainder of the weekend!




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